Monday, November 23, 2009

Rule #64: Dogs are a boys best friend

I was folding laundry in Evan's room when I heard laughter coming from the kitchen. I went to investigate, and this is what I found!

Evan was trying to put his favorite blanket on Jasmine...maybe playing peek-a-boo? Who knows...but he thought it was hysterical!

So when I finally did put the blanket on Jasmine, he nearly lost it. I wish I had the camera on the first was a better reaction. But this is still pretty good.

Isn't she such a good dog? I love to see these two play together, it gets better everyday!

*Sorry about my loud laughter, and the shaking towards the was just too funny!

Monday, November 16, 2009

Rule #63: Knowledge is Power

We're back from our appointment with Early Intervention.

I'm pleased with how things went....and this is going to sound strange, but I'm pleased that my son qualifies for some help therapy. Basically because I don't know what else to do with/for my son as far as communication goes.

I'm thrilled that they didn't give a "diagnosis", just said he's behind in a few areas that we can work on together. Deep down I never felt he "had" something, nothing was SERIOUSLY wrong with him, I just knew he should be doing more than he was. So I'm glad they couldn't diagnose him. Alex, on the other hand, thinks that if it's just a delay, then there's no real need for therapy. He'll catch up.

He's not fighting me on this, he is willing to do therapy, but since nothing is "wrong" with Evan, he doesn't feel it's entirely necessary. I understand how Alex is feeling, but most of Evan's delays are pre-language....that pretty much impedes every other advancement in skills for the near future. So, while he may eventually have caught up on his own, I'm very excited to have some guidance to nudge him along sooner.

It's a state funded program, so thanks to all of you for your unknowing support via your taxes. :) We still have a VERY small monthly fee to pay for their services. Another reason Alex can't argue. They come to our house, and it's like $30 a month. It's a pretty sweet deal if you ask me. (I guess the program used to be free, but about ten years ago started charging a small fee based on income. They've seen more responsibility from parents when they have to pay. Even just a few dollars. Less no-shows and more willingness to learn.)

I'm not sure how often he will be seen or when his first appointment will be. They will call me and set that up. But it probably wont happen until after Thanksgiving.

For those of you who want to know the you go. For those just mildly interested, you can stop reading now. You got the gist of it. :)

There were two therapist, a developmental, speech, and a nurse there. They played with Evan, and ask Alex and I a lot of questions. It lasted about an hour. Evan was very pleasant as always. Gave of his smiles freely and was his usual self. (which was good, I was concerned he might do more or less because of the new faces)

They "graded" Evan on different areas based on what he could do, or what we said he could do. This is the copy that they gave us.

Cognitive: 9 months + splinter skills to 12 months. (Splinter skills are when he has stopped doing certain skills in a group, but then can also do more advanced skills in the same group. More or less, he skips some skills)
Language: <9 months
Gross Motor: 15 months
Fine motor: 12 months
Social/Emotional: 7 months + splinter skills to 15 months
Self Help: 12 months

They said they were very pleased with how interactive he is, and how much he focuses on faces. Almost to the point where he can't concentrate on anything else. They said he needs to learn how to "multi task" He's so focused on someones face, that he can't/doesn't pay attention to what they are trying to show him. They also said his attachment to Alex and I was at 18 months. Which makes me feel good, knowing that he knows he is loved and loves us back. (not that I was ever questioning it)

I'm not sure how long he will need therapy, only time will tell. But I am excited to get it started. Another waiting game. :) But this is one time I don't mind waiting. I know what is going on with my child and I know that someone is going to help me help him. That's all I ever wanted.

Thanks to all of you for your love and support! I'll keep you all updated!

Sunday, November 15, 2009

Rule #62: There's a light at the end of the tunnel

Well, my wait is almost over. Tomorrow is the day we meet with Early Intervention.

I've been excited for Monday to come.


I'm anxious.

The heart squeezing kind of anxious.

It a very good probability that they will tell me my child is stubborn and will communicate with me when he is good and ready.

Will I feel foolish for all of the worry?

But what if they don't?

I'll be fine because then I'll know.

But tonight, I still don't know...and all of the anxiety that I've felt for that last several months when I wasn't sure if I should be concerned or not is all coming to it's breaking point. Because it's almost over.


It's almost over....

Thursday, November 12, 2009

Rule #61: Halloween is for suckers.

Evan went to see his grandparents for halloween. Everyone was a sucker for his little monkey face.
Evan had his first sucker coutesy of Nana, which he enjoyed getting himself all sticky with.
Don't forget his little monkey tail.

Thursday, November 5, 2009

Rule #60: Good news is worth waiting for

Evan had his hearing checked this Monday. To no ones surprise he has perfect hearing. So check hearing loss of the list of reasons why my baby isn't communicating. The reasons left are as follows, in no particular order:

~ Stubbornness. He just plain doesn't wanna
~Genetics. Alex and Uncle Jeff didn't speak till they were 18 months and 2, respectively. Although this does not explain the lack of pointing and other ways of communicating.
~His chill attitude. He feels it's unnecessary because we somehow know what he wants, and we'll get there eventually, without any cues on his part.
~Some form of communication deficit.

The only one that can be "helped" is the last one. If it's all because of personality, then all we can do is what we are already doing. And then just keep on waiting.

But I'm waiting anyway. We won't be seen by Early Intervention until the 16th. But at least we have a date set. I'm fine to give him all the time in the world to want to communicate with me, but I need to know I'm not ignoring something important. Hopefully the 16th will give us news one way or the other.

Nothing left to do but wait.

I hate waiting.